The Brotherhood

There’s an issue in society right now where there’s a push for everyone trying to do everything on their own. Trying to be an island unto themselves. While it’s good to be self reliant and self sufficient, we are still a social species. This means we can’t do everything ourselves, and we need others for not only help in certain endeavors, but we also need connection. This week in Deeper Thoughts we’re going to touch on the subject of how important it is for men to have a brotherhood in our lives.

From the very start we rely on others. From the moment we’re born we’re dependent on others to take care of us. As babies we absolutely need someone to feed us, clean us, keep us warm, keep us safe, and provide us love. As children we need these needs met continually as well as the added need to teach us as we grow. This is often provided by multiple people in the family unit, friends, and other institutions like school and religious institutions. 

As adults we still need groups to meet needs we can’t meet on our own. First and foremost, even when we grow into adults, we still need connection with others, support, and guidance. The problem is that in the modern world, there’s a push to do it all on your own and rely on no one, because “you can only trust yourself.” These thoughts get pushed even further in the red pill community.

Men struggle quite often these days because of this mindset. Especially those who come from broken homes, or if they had poor examples of what healthy masculinity looks like. This is why brotherhoods are sorely needed. A strong brotherhood helps build up confidence. They encourage you to take healthy risks that can improve your life. They push you to get out of your comfort zone so when you are in circumstances you’re not normally in you can navigate through safely.

A healthy brotherhood helps guide you without dictating what you should or shouldn’t do. Each member in a brotherhood has different backgrounds, thus giving them different experiences. With these different perspectives to draw upon you can make better decisions because you have input from people who want you to succeed. They don’t demand you do this or that, but give you insights you might not have had otherwise so you can walk your path far more surely than if you navigate life blindly.

They hold a person accountable for their actions so they remain on a better path. If you’re making detrimental choices to yourself or doing things that cause harm to others then they’ll call you out on it. They don’t just turn blind eyes to it because you’re their friend. They don’t want you making choices that can put you or others in harm’s way or cause you to risk losing all you’ve achieved. Even though it can be uncomfortable, they’re not afraid to have those tough talks with you because they truly have your best interest at heart and want to see you succeed.

Another benefit to a brotherhood is support. They can help you when you’re in need in a situation, such as a project you’re working on, or figuring out a solution to a problem you have. Even more importantly a true brotherhood creates a safe space for a man to talk about and work through his mental and emotional stress. I cannot stress enough that one of the reasons the male mental/emotional health epidemic is so bad in today’s world is because men do not have the support in these areas they once had.

Men today are told to just push whatever emotional/mental pain they’re feeling aside, to just suck it up, and quit being a bitch about it. Yes, the masculine is meant to deal with the toughness of the world, but to face it all alone without being shown ways to process the stress that comes along with it leads to much of the toxic masculinity that runs rampant in today’s world. Healthy brotherhoods act like a support group for men so they’re not facing these struggles alone because every member of that brotherhood is either currently facing the same types of stress, or has in the past.

Another reason to have a strong and healthy brotherhood is you have people to celebrate your wins as well as celebrating theirs. A brotherhood wants everyone to succeed, so when one person hits a goal or milestone, it’s a win for all. It’s a very “one for all and all for one” type of energy.

There are many reasons having a brotherhood is valuable in a man’s life. It’s important to surround yourself with other men who are all building toward the same type of goals you are working toward. People who help you out just as you help them out. A good brotherhood keeps you on the straight and narrow and helps you be the best version of yourself. If you’re struggling as a man in today’s world, take stock of who you surround yourself with and make sure you’re with a true brotherhood who lifts you up, instead of holding you back.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you have an enlightening day.